One question that comes almost immediately to divorcing couples in California is: should we tell our kids? And if so, what should we tell them? Some may consider softening the blow by telling half-truths, but in the end, this may do more harm than you intended.
Today's Parent has a guide for breaking the news of divorce to children of varying ages, because different age groups will handle the information differently. However, it's important to note that children have an uncanny ability to detect things that are amiss around them. Even if you think you can sneak something past them, they will most likely be able to tell that something's going on. Avoid the potential of creating mistrust by being straight-forward about the situation - or as straight-forward as possible, given their age.
It's also important to understand the thought process of your child's general age group and tailor what you say accordingly. For example, very young children won't understand the longer-reaching or more vague implications of a divorce. Breaking the situation down into simplistic, easily-digested chunks is the best way for you to convey the most important parts of your message to your child. Older children, by contrast, will be able to handle more nuanced explanations.
However and whenever you choose to tell your child about the divorce is up to you. Just keep in mind that many experts agree it's better to tell them sooner rather than later, and that there is no "one size fits all" explanation that can be used to the same effect on every single child.
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